Why I Read So Slowly (And Why That’s Okay)

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Let’s be real for a second: we live in an era of "more." More content, more scrolling, more notifications, and: if you’re part of the bookish community on TikTok or Instagram: more books. Every January, I see the "2026 Reading Challenge" posts popping up with goals that make my head spin. People are aiming for 100, 150, even 200 books a year.

And then there’s me. I’m the person still nursing the same MM romance novel I started three weeks ago.

For a long time, I felt like a "bad" reader. I felt like I wasn't "Read with Pride" enough because my TBR (To Be Read) pile was growing at a rate that far outpaced my actual reading speed. But as we settle into 2026, I’ve had an epiphany: reading slowly isn't a bug; it’s a feature. Especially when it comes to gay romance novels, where the emotional payoff is half the fun, rushing is actually a disservice to the art.

The Cult of Speed vs. The Joy of Savoring

In the world of LGBTQ+ fiction, stories are often about discovery, identity, and the delicate dance of falling in love. These aren't just plots; they’re experiences. When I’m reading a particularly poignant gay love story, I don't want to fly through it. I want to live in it.

I want to hear the way the characters’ voices sound in my head. I want to feel the tension in the "forced proximity" trope when two rivals are stuck in a tiny cabin during a snowstorm. If I read 50 pages an hour, I might miss the subtle shift in a character's body language or the double meaning in a line of dialogue.

Research actually shows that slow reading is often a sign of deep concentration and an active imagination. When we slow down, we aren't just decoding words; we’re visualizing the world. We’re thinking deeply about the themes. For those of us who love queer fiction, this deep engagement is how we connect with our community’s history and our own hearts.

Why We Read Slowly (The Science of the Snail’s Pace)

If you’ve ever wondered why you’re still on chapter four while your bestie has finished the whole trilogy, it usually comes down to a few things:

1. Subvocalization: This is the habit of "speaking" the words in your head as you read. While speed-reading experts tell you to stop doing this, many of us find it essential for enjoying the prose. In gay literature, the "voice" of the narrator is often half the charm. Why would I want to silence that?
2. Visualization: Some of us have very high-definition "mind’s eyes." When I read a MM historical romance, I’m literally building the Victorian ballroom or the gritty 1950s bar in my head. That takes processing power!
3. Emotional Processing: Let's face it, gay fiction can be heavy. Whether it’s a gay psychological thriller or a tear-jerker gay contemporary romance, we often need a minute to breathe and process the emotions the author is throwing at us.

The Ultimate Match: Slow Reading and Slow Burn

If you are a self-proclaimed slow reader, there is one trope that was practically invented for us: the slow burn. There is nothing more satisfying than a relationship that takes 300 pages to move from a handshake to a lingering look.

Because I read slowly, the "burn" feels even more intense. I am suffering right along with the characters. If you’re looking for your next obsession, here are some slow burn mm romance recommendations that are perfect for the patient reader:

• The "Enemies to Lovers" Slow Burn: Where the bickering lasts for years, and every insult is secretly a plea for attention.
• The "Best Friends to Lovers" Slow Burn: Where the realization of feelings is so gradual you barely notice it happening: until it’s everything.
• The "Grumpy/Sunshine" Slow Burn: Where the rays of light finally break through the clouds in the very last act.

When you’re reading these MM romance books, the slow pace mirrors the narrative. You aren't rushing to the "happily ever after" because the journey is the point. You can find many of these tropes represented in our curated collections at Readwithpride.com.

2026: The Year of Intentional Reading

This year, I’m challenging the "Reading Challenge." Instead of counting books, I’m counting moments of connection. Did that gay adventure romance make me feel brave? Did that MM fantasy make me feel seen?

At Read with Pride, we believe that every story deserves to be heard at its own rhythm. Whether you are consuming LGBTQ+ ebooks on your commute or flipping through a physical gay novel by the fireplace, the speed doesn't validate your identity as a reader.

If you're struggling with "reader's guilt," here are a few ways to embrace your slow pace:

• Stop DNF-ing Guilt: If a book isn't grabbing you, put it down. Life is too short and our reading speed is too slow to waste time on books that don't spark joy. Check out our 7 mistakes to avoid for a better idea of what makes a story truly click.
• Savor the Prose: If a sentence is beautiful, read it twice. Highlight it. Put it on your "Bookstagram."
• Join a Gay Book Club: Discussing a book with others forces you to slow down and consider different perspectives. It turns reading from a solitary sprint into a community stroll.

Quality Over Quantity in Queer Literature

The truth is, our community has fought hard for our stories to be told. From the early gay classics to the new gay releases of 2026, these books represent our voices, our struggles, and our triumphs. When we rush through them, we’re missing the nuance.

I’d rather read ten books a year and remember every single character’s name, their hopes, and their fears, than read a hundred books and forget them by next Tuesday. Whether it's a steamy MM romance or a heartfelt gay fiction piece, these stories are meant to linger.

So, to my fellow slow readers: take your time. Let the "slow burn" actually burn. Let the gay romance series last all summer. There is no finish line in literature.

Stay Connected with the Community

Ready to find your next slow-burn obsession? We’ve got you covered. Whether you're into gay spy romance or MM contemporary, our shelves are stocked with the best the community has to offer.

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